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It's Christmas — the season for making merry, going out and, if you're single, trying to snog people under the mistletoe before the pubs close.

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So I thought it would be a good time to look at one of the oldest assumptions in the Men vs Women book: I don't like the bar example. First, and most obviously, it is not universally true.

There are women and I am one of them who have walked up to guys in bars, asked them for sex, and been flat-out refused. Likewise I've known men who have been able to get quick and easy sex with very little effort. Second, not only does the bar example prop up unhelpful stereotypes about men that they always want sexbecause biology and testosterone I want a girl for sex grrrit also drives a hammer-blow into the self-esteem of any woman who has been turned down for a casual shag.

Claiming that women I want a girl for sex get sex just by clicking their fingers sets horny women up for a lifetime of disappointment, and gives men a reputation they can never possibly live up to. If you're into odd sexual studies, like me, you'll probably be thinking of the Russell Clark experiment. Inat Florida State University, students directed by Clark a social psychology professorapproached people of the opposite sex at random and all asked the same question:.

I find you to be attractive. Would you go to bed with me tonight? Assuming that men aren't simply aroused by awkwardly worded sentences, let's see why this might be the case. Clark believed there was an evolutionary reason: He backs this up by pointing to another part of the experiment which, curiously, is much less commonly cited that when the proposition changed to "would you like to go out with me tonight? Others have suggested that it's about socially learned behaviour: Yet others have suggested that it's more about risk aversion: I suspect we're affected by a combination of those factors, but that doesn't matter for this discussion, because I'm going to take the conclusions of the experiment as read: So — happy ever after, then?

Presumably I, and all the rest of the women, can now simply pick and choose whom we want to have sex with and — with little to no effort on our part — entice them into bed, orgasm ourselves rigid, and frolick forever in our sexual Utopia?

It almost goes without saying that people want different kinds of sex.

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You might like giving head, whereas I'd prefer it if you gave me a hand job. I might like it rough and quick, while my friend wants to make much more gentle love. The fact that we all differ in preferences is obvious if you've watched any porn, read a book, or seen any human interaction ever.

Although the bar example seems to show women in a very privileged and powerful position — the ones who hold the keys to I want a girl for sex sexual kingdom, if you like — what is actually on offer is a very limited type of sex: This is problematic, because even if we accept the "women can easily get sex" proposition as true, we're not saying that women can fulfil their sexual needs easily, only that women can have this specific type of sex easily.

I'm happy to admit that women might be less inclined although not universally dis inclined — there are plenty of us on Craiglist too towards casual sex with strangers, for one or all of the reasons stated above.

But that doesn't mean that men necessarily have stronger sexual desire.

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It's possible that all the women approached in the bar are horny, or would love a shag, they just wouldn't want the kind of shag they'd imagine is on offer when a total stranger approaches them for a quickie. This experiment has been repeated a few times since the original.

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You can see fun examples of it on YouTubeand Clark himself repeated it inand as recently as with similar results. Failing any dramatic changes in societal norms around sex, I'd expect the results to be similar if it were repeated today.

But that's not particularly surprising. The experiment and the bar example both offer a very specific type of sex. The type of sex that, rightly or wrongly, is associated with male desire and fantasy.


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